Sunday, June 5, 2011

How do you know that you are in love?? (Only for men!)

Wo 0! Tricky Question.

Not for all of course, for many it may be as easy as 'of course I know'. But there are poor fellows with higher vocabulary who confuse attraction with infatuation with liking with lust with raw passion with love or (my fav.) that strange feeling which they cant understand .

My friend asked me same question few days back, I liked my answer so much that I decided to put it on net.

It will require little visulization on your part. Or in simple words, you need to daydream, but on my suggestions.

Imagine you are in Mountains, in a weather that has put your good emotions on steroids. A weather that makes you forget all your worries, make you feel happy for no reason.

However you are not driving alone, your 'Girl' in question is sitting at back with two more friends.. both male. To make matters worse, the guy siting next to her is the guy you always suspected will do anything to get close to her. And the guy sitting at other end of the car is Tushar Kapoor. I mean only thing funny about him is that he does not resemble his father. Now if you are thinking, if 'she' is your girl why is she not sitting next to you, in front. Well that is because you spilled two beer bottles on that seat during your adventurous last nite. Not realistic? I am sorry I am short of time, and could not come with anything better.

Few miles have gone by, sun has come out and things are not looking as exciting as before. And everyone at back is feeling sleepy. 'Your' girl if I may call her is really sleepy by now, and is leaning on 'that jerk'. She is looking very beautiful though. Her head is on his shoulders and some of her hair are covering her face and some are touching his lips, that lucky b@$#@%. Even though unintentionally, they are looking like a 'couple'. In this situation:

1. If it does not bother you and you are completely focused on road, because you dont want to meet an accident. You are not in love! She is not for you and wait for the girl who is more important for you than the road. A girl you want to see even when you are counting your last breaths.

2. If you cant take your eyes off her and its not the face you are looking at. Also you are thinking about all dirty possibilities if only you were at that 'Jerk's' place. Do I need to say its lust. Either you start appericiating curves of her eyelids, nostrils, cheeks, ears as much as you appericiate curves of rest of her body or if you cant do that, tell that 'Jerk' you have drived for long and its time for him to control the wheels.

3. If looking at them makes your blood boil and your thoughts all of sudden have more impolite words than polite ones. Also if now you are keeping a close look at her and whenever she gets too close to him, you intentionally drive roughly to wake dem up so that she gets back to herself. And when they complain, you reply in a tone you will use if some one insulted you in public. You are Jealous, and jealousy only comes for people that are important to you, more important than the regular human being you interact on daily basis. However Jealousy is not an indicator of love, it is an indicator of attraction, infatualtion, liking. It doesnt mean, it can not develop to love, in fact you can be in love after you have been in any of the above situation, it just means you are not dere yet.

4. Now if you see her and you fall in love once again, if you love the peace on her face while she sleeps, if your eyes get glued to her hair flying because of air coming through the window. And the only reason you are looking at road is because you dont want anything to disturb her sleep. You drive so carefully as if purpose of your life is to take her to destination without waking her up. And amazingly all that time you did not even noticed that Jerk sitting along. Boy!! You are in LOVE.

And boy are you luky, because I dont think even 5% of people are genuinely in love. They are in relationship but not in love. Cherish that love.. Feeling of being so much in love that no other emotion like lust, jealousy exist for you is divine.. Attain it.

One last thing, if 'your' girl, even while in sleep hugs the arm of that 'jerk', time to reconsider your choice :)


Let me know with your comments if you liked my article. This is my first attempt at article writing after many years. Feedback -ve or +ve is much appericiated..

Saturday, January 16, 2010

A sincere appology..

I know, I am difficult to be loved,
And I know, you are making an effort.
I also know, dat you expect more from me,
and dat I dissappoint you many a times.

But there is one thing I want you to know,
That this heart only beats for you.
That it wants to take away all your sorrows,
and give you every happiness of this world,
and more..

Your are the one who filled it with love,
and dat its not air but your smile that makes it beat..
and dat widout you the only feeling I have
is of pain..

so just like always,
please forgive it for not understanding,
for not knowing when it hurts u..
know that its trying, trying to become a reason for your smile
a reason to be with you..

Bas Yatra..

This one has been one of my fav and popular poem in Punjabi..

It only accommodates my Punjabi understanding friends.. This poem is about a bus journey from Jalandhar to Chandigarh..

I am the first one to board the bus and then enters most pretty lady I have ever seen.. Correction, 2nd most pretty lady I have ever seen.. what happens next is written here..


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Oh kudi taan badi sohni si, oh sohni si man mohani,
taan dekh ke usnu dil vich saade, aape kud kud hini si..

oh tur ke mere kol aayi, te naal di seat te beh gayi,
mainu taan aidaan japya, aande I love u keh gayi..

oh thoda mere nede aayi, kehandi tuhanu kujh kehna wai,
tusi pichli seat te beh jaoge, aithe mere husband ne behna wai..

Oh dil di jehdi kud kud si, dhid dee gud gud vich badal gayi..
iston pehlan kujh hor hove, main apni seat hi badal layi...

waise dekhan nu wi maadi si, te kad wi wadu lamba si,
jadon khad di si.. ainj lagda si, jiwein bikjli da koi khamba si..

Apni kismat te hasda si, ki hassi meri khad gayi,
Jad vekhya ke bus vich saade, ik hor haseena vad gayi...

baki saariyaan seataan bhariyan san, bas mere naal di khaali si..
Eh dekh ke dil mera nachan lagga, oh aithe hi baithan wali si..

main joke chutkale kasada rahya, oh chutkalyaan te hasdi rahi..
Hasde Hasde, holi holi, oh dil vich mere basdi rahi..

ohne bade pyaar nal mainu kahya, tusi bade hi change lagde ho..
jadon hasde ho us velle taan, tusi wade veer waangu lagde ho..

Main mud ke fer na has sakya, na joke chutkale kas sakya,
oh puchdi rahi ki ki hoya, main ki hoya na das sakya..

ki hoya tenu ki dasiye, tu appe mitti kar ti hai,
main karwachoth da sochaya si, tu rakhadi agge dharti hai..

ki hoya je nak chotta si, par dand taan chaangey wade san,
ohnaan dandaan vich wi taan rab ne, gap taan change chadde san..

par ik gal taan pakki hai, eh safar na kaade bhul pawanga,
hun chandigarh vich ki hoya, eh agli waar sunawanga..

Monday, November 23, 2009

You are what you are, my world, my everything!

You are the reason I am so happy,
You are the reason I am still a child.
You are the reason I jump in shower,
You are the reason I get tickled all inside..

You are the reason I always smile,
You are the reason for this wonderful mood.
You are the reason I love to sing,
You are the reason I love my food.

You are the reason I hug my pillow,
You are the reason I love my phone.
You are the reason for that crazy dance,
that I do when I am all alone..

You are the one I was looking for,
when I wanted someone by my side.
You are the one, I want to cuddle,
on every lovely and lonely night.

You are the reason for that morning prayer,
that I do, just to be close to you.
I swear to god, its not a crush,
My love, I am in love with you!

Thursday, April 2, 2009

A begining or an end

You asked me to never stop smiling..
and told me to be happy..
if only you knew..
You were my happy ending..
and behind my ever smiling face..
my heart will never stop crying..

You asked me to look around..
and that I will find someone better..
if only you knew..
that I cant see where I am looking
from my tear filled eyes..
and if at all I am able to see..
all I see is you!

Once again you have been unfair,
once again I am going to listen to you..
but may be for the last time..
So just to let you know..
with a crying heart and fake smile,
I have decided to move on.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Love Quotes (Picked from Internet)

1) I love you not only for who you are, but for who I am when I am with you! (My Fav..)


2) I don't fear insects or spiders. At great heights, I jump off, smiling. In the face of death I wink. But, when I look into your eyes, I'm in fear of how much I love you


3) I love you without reason and that is reason enough.


4) I love you not because it is right, but because I love you


5) You hurt me more than I deserve, how can you be so cruel? I love you more than you deserve, why am I such a fool?


6) Can't say how I feel, can't tell if my heart would heal, but I always knew from the start, I never really had your heart. So leave me now before I cry. The pain's too much to say goodbye. But always remember in each tear I shed, is an 'I love you' left unsaid.


7) Going back with you may be hard, but going forward without you is impossible.


8) Wait!' That's what I said before you went away. Wait, that's what I'm doin' until today. Wait forever I guess I will, I just wish I could have told you, Wait! I love you still....


9) Seduce my mind and you can have my body, but find my soul and I'm yours forever (Contributed By Luciana (Girl with the sweetest smile in the world!))


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Monday, March 23, 2009

Hopelessly in love!

I know you never loved me..

I know you never tried..

I know you never felt the pain..

I know you never cried..

But thats not going to change..

My love, my love for you..

I'll wait for the day you give up..

and say I love you toooo!


Ahhhhhh thats so unlike me.. but cant help..